So it's been over a month since my last blog post and school has already started for a week, it's currently in its second week now and quickly, work is seemingly already piled high ahead of me, I can only hope I can achieve a 4.0 GPA to bring it up but I highly doubt I can hit that. But that's not the topic of what I have to say today. It's on an entirely different spectrum.
For most people, they have a few friends of the opposite gender. Sometimes more than their own, which is perfectly fine. I don't have many friends who are girls, I can probably count it on one hand if I had to, which then again, I don't have many friends either. Most other people I know I'd only count as acquaintances. To me, the word 'friend' just has so much more meaning and power than to others. Some people only have to meet a person once or twice before deciding they're their friends (supposing they like them). For me, it's more like twenty. Minor digression, back to the point I was going to say, so sometimes, there's this friend of the opposite gender you really hit it off with. It's at the point where you have so many things you can talk about, movies, games, anything really. All your mutual friends are speculating if you're together, you hear them and laugh it off but then you doubt yourself for a moment. What if you really like them? Would you miss out if you don't act? Could he/she be the soulmate you were destined for?
And so you acted, or it could be that the other other party acted first. You end up together. Happiest 3 months of your life. Maybe rest of your life. And then strife. National Service, taxing classes, work stresses. Argument. Life so turbulent. You question if really you were meant for each other. Increasingly, you notice the things you never saw before, say words of war. At the same time, so does he/she. Tensions rise and they drop their guise. Suddenly you realise that you're not meant to be. Words you didn't intend, an unwanted end. After 3 weeks, you run into them. It was fleet, your eyes meet. Pleas quietly said, no mends to be made, heart cut by a blade. You drink your mead, try to stop the bleed. Passage of a melancholy tide, tears have dried.
So before I get too carried away with the rhymes (actually it's just that it's gotten too hard), the crux of what I've been trying to say is that just because you have a great friendship doesn't mean that you'll have a great relationship. There's always things that you will never show your friends, likewise so will the other party. Things you'll expect of a significant other but not a friend. I've personally seen this in my own relationships (only in one actually but still) and that from people around me. Somehow, even when they're in the wrong (I'm talking for objective issues like if the sun is a star), they want the other party to cede to them, but they might simply accept that they were wrong and not fight over it if it was a friend instead who told them they were wrong. This is just one example of the things that could be expected from a significant other that won't be expected from a friend. Somehow, just because they're together, it is expected that the significant other should be treated differently, like royalty. And honestly, I don't think that's a viable relationship. You got together at first because you enjoyed each other's company. Then when unrealistic or sudden expectations are placed on the other party, suddenly your company ceases to be as desirable to the other party. You show things you wouldn't show your friends but would show your family. They see that you're not all that you're cropped up to be, likewise so will you, and well, things don't end well.
So don't be overly hasty. Sometimes, all that you'll ever be meant for is just a friendship but of course, that doesn't mean you can never be more than that.
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